Anthony Esolen has begun a series on Catholic Thing that dovetails nicely with our series on marriage. In his first article, he describes the people he refers to as ‘nice fornicators’:
Nice Fornicators do not find themselves in bed with someone they do not know. They have moral standards. Nice Fornicators will only go to bed with someone they love. What this means is never entirely clear…
Had they been born a century ago, Nice Fornicators would most likely have approached the altar as virgins – man and woman both. They believe in the Ten Commandments, but they have been taught that one of those commandments no longer applies in the modern world, at least not in the way it used to…
Nice Fornicators are respectable people.
Esolen makes the comparison with the decent married man of Victorian times, who kept a mistress and treated both wife and mistress with the respect and courtesy due their respective positions. Nice fornicators follow the rules.
Esolen suggests that if nice fornicators are doing wrong, then the whole sexual revolution fails. He promises:
I will show, in further installments: first, that it is wrong in itself; then, that it hurts the people who engage in it, and finally that it hurts others. It rends the fabric of society, and any Catholic who actually knows what the Church’s social teachings are must reject it.
I’ll link to the other installments as they appear.