Melinda Selmys blogs about the other side of our modern hysteria about sex – the Catholic oversanctification of sex as a holy act that unites husband and wife, and mirrors the self-giving love of God. While this is true, she says, it is no more the whole truth than the view it is meant to counter – that sex is essential to human life, and always fun, liberating, and empowering.
It’s just sex. If you don’t have it, it’s not the end of the world. If you do have it, and it’s rushed, mediocre, and half-asleep, it’s not the end of the world. A lot of the time, you end up with a situation where there is a strong biological imperative to make love on the part of one spouse, and a total lack of interest on the part of the other. This isn’t reductionistic and selfish, it’s just biology.